Archive for the ‘Chutes & Ladders’ Category

Listen and Look for Success

Friday, September 17th, 2010

Listen and look in every direction. Sometimes from the most unlikely and unexpected places, you will receive help or inspiration to take the first step into the unknown. As you take the first step forward, the next step may be more visible or you may encounter someone who may offer a suggestion or introduce you to someone that may make the next step so very apparent.
Utilize your own knowledge and creativity ingrained within you, while expecting more to come. Never be discouraged if you must call a halt in your progress due to unexpected roadblocks, emergencies or circumstances. Do what you must, or delegate if you can and sooner or later, you will most likely return to the project with more energy, insight and possible shortcuts with a better solution to reach your goal.

Additional Words of Wisdom: Remember to reach down to help others as you climb the ladder of success and you may find that you will rise even further than you may have ever imagined.

Are You the Turtle or the Hare?

Monday, August 23rd, 2010

Don’t ask what your mate can do for you! Instead ask what you can do to complement (not compliment or complicate) the “union”. In other words, list all the positive and negatives of each personality and analyze how the “union” will benefit–Remember, a negative may actually be a positive in many different situations. For instance, if you are an energetic go getter who is anxious to make your mark in the world; instead of being irritated with your slower, deliberate, calculating, longrange planning mate, be aware that the turtle actually won the race! If you are the dominant personality, it is really nice to have a mate who is supportive and offers encouragement instead of being jealous or competitive. Shared goals, opinions and struggles make life more interesting. Mutual respect, admiration and appreciation are necessary ingredients. Ideally, each person has special attributes and different interests that enhance the relationship. Allowing individual expression is the key to long-lasting associations. It is never a good idea to assume that your partnership will be like your parents, because your partner is not your parent!

When there are differences or disputes which may escalate and become heated, realize that this may be an opportunity to explore several unique options that will benefit both partners. Often we ignore or fail to recognize the special traits or talents that each person offers and may have to reorganize the individual responsibilities. Be willing to admit that you may be wrong sometimes in judging a situation without understanding all the facts and be willing to listen to another point of view and you can both become winners.

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A NEW YOU!

Wednesday, June 23rd, 2010

Do you need to eliminate bad habits such as smoking, excessive alcohol consumption, eating disorders, impatience, quick temper or any other annoying habit that may be bothersome to yourself or others? Do you lack confidence? Do you need to lose weight? Do you need to improve your problem solving abilities?

Are you aware that most people only use a very small portion of the brain to function? Research has proven that when you practice visualization techniques, simply using your imagination and focusing daily upon what you would like to accomplish or change can have a lasting impact upon your life! Many people who have used the techniques I will explain have found their colds, infections, headaches, sleeplessness and even cancer conditions have diminished and often disappeared completely.

Instead of using only the left (analytical) side of your brain in order to meet daily challenges, you can open and stimulate the right (creative) side of your brain and find a new you emerging, capable of stepping out of your mundane box that kept you frustrated, stressed and stuck. Yes, your mind is truly powerful and you can achieve amazing results if you are willing to spend a few minutes several times daily to exercise the formerly underused part of your brain.

To get started, disconnect, decrease volume or simply decide not to answer your phone (Isn’t voice mail great?) and find a comfortable, quiet place where you will not be disturbed for awhile. Often the best time to practice is early morning upon awakening and before falling asleep at night, but also try to take a few minutes at other times during the day. Either sit or lie down, get comfortable and close your eyes. Then take a slow, deep, deep breath and as you exhale slowly think “RELAX”. Repeat 3 or more times and then see yourself relaxing on a beach or lying in a hammock. Imagine you can see and hear the sea gulls swooping in the sky and the waves lapping on the shore and feel the pleasant sea breezes. warmed by the sun. At other times, imagine lying comfortably in a hammock, gently swaying as you inhale the fresh, clean, fragrant breezes and hear birds and little animals in the area.

The next step is to visualize what you wish to accomplish:
Ideal weight–Imagine drinking a tall cool glass of water, several times, daily and seeing fat cells disintegrating and being washed away and eliminated. See how you would look and feel at your ideal weight. See your slender body, your sleeker image in new smaller fashions. Feel energized, feel great. See yourself moving and walking, easier and gracefully.
Achieve confidence and poise–picture a scene such as a job interview, giving a speech or performing and imagine every detail being accomplished perfectly with a round of applause or the words, “You are hired”. Athletes and performers often use this technique and improve their scores beyond expectations.
Solve problems by reminding yourself at bedtime, and visualizing that in the morning your mind will be fully aware of the solution. Inventors and composers often received their inspirations in this manner.
To eliminate negative habits, watch a new cigarette dropping down, down, down into a deep, dark hole and see yourself being free and revitalized without that crutch. Chocoholics, imagine the next chocolate treat you eat, tasting the most vile, the most horrible taste that you have to remove it immediately and then see the end result–a healthier, slimmer slender you.

Now imagine and visualize the “New You” with increased inner strength to accomplish all your goals, one at a time.

Reform the World?

Friday, June 4th, 2010

Peace and Truth are basic elements necessary in order to reform the World. How can any individual change the World?
We begin by reforming ourselves in order to inspire others. Speak the truth quietly and clearly and listen to others who may not have had the opportunity to grow spiritually. Realize that our differences help us to clarify truth. It is important not to limit your love to family and friends as this creates a shell which limits our accomplishments and spiritual growth. You can inspire others through your faith and your actions and when others observe your strength, confidence and joy in knowing that you really can influence others, quietly, yet definitely, they, too can become an example of peace and truth.
When others are worried, upset or angry, instead of reacting likewise, quietly listen and ask questions so that they may become aware that there may be a silver lining in their dilemna. Perhaps they will gain better understanding of others who were in similar situations and then they can be instrumental in helping others to evolve.
I really believe that if everyone in the world practiced the right attitude emphasizing the goodness inside their neighbor, we would no longer have angry mobs demanding and demeaning others who might have opposing viewpoints. Do you think that eventually the different religions will realize and respect that it really doesn’t matter whether you may be Lutheran, Catholic, Protestant or Babtist, as long as you live with love in your heart for family, friends and neighbors and practice the Golden Rule?
Who knows? Do you think that governments all over the world may, at last, see how ridiculous it is to pursue their selfish motives instead of concentrating on what is beneficial to the world, respecting the differences in government and work in cooperation and understanding each others needs?

End of the Rainbow and a Pot of Gold

Tuesday, June 1st, 2010

Throughout life, a lot of people are looking for their pot of gold and the end of the rainbow. For some, that pot of gold could be money. For others, it may be a job or a relationship. Everybody has their own idea of what that pot of gold is for us as an individual. Their journey of finding the pot of gold is never easy. You have to remember that there are tricky leprechauns out there. According to the old story, finding the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow is as hard to find as the leprechauns who may be watching over it to keep you from getting it. Folklore says that leprechauns are almost impossible to catch, since they are well known for being cunning and fast and they can also hide very easily. Nonetheless, if you look hard and focus on them with your eye, they cannot move and trick you. This means that you have to confront the leprechauns you come across in your search for the pot of gold so that you control them, instead of them controlling you.

Some people think that after their working years, they will magically find their pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. However, it is actually the journey, not the end result that contains the riches they are looking for. Finding their pot of gold could consist of picking up coins along the way.

Pot of Gold at the End of the Rainbow

Friday, May 28th, 2010

Believing in the proverbial pot of gold at the end of the rainbow is a great perspective to have on life. The fact that you’re reading this might be a sign that you believe in it. You just have to be willing to reach for it and hope it may be true. This statement that was made long ago might have proven to be untrue to those who believed it, but for some reason didn’t ever make it to the end of the rainbow. Some may ridicule a person who would ever believe in such a thing to begin with. However, many have proven this old statement to be true and it is more that just a poetic statement that was made to raise our expectations by some guy. The gold can be anything that you consider to be valuable in your life. It is the value that is associated with your desire that turns something to gold. Your determination of value is what is important. Just as much as someone wants to change and goes through a sequence of events that makes them a more whole being, so does the journey to the end of the rainbow bring forth different changes to the explorer in their path to success. You may be thinking, ‘what is success’? It is a belief of conquest, a surmounting the odds to reach a desired goal or state of happiness.

Stepping Back to Move Forward

Thursday, May 27th, 2010

Entrepreneurs who are just getting started know more than anyone about the benefits of being willing to step back in order to move forward. Sometimes business owners have to take pay cuts, change their lifestyles, and move to smaller offices. They often face a lot of uncertainty. They key to being a successful entrepreneur is timing. It is a huge risk to put up your life savings for a chance of being successful, especially in a time of recession. However, we can often learn a lot of valuable lessons during trying times. Often, what we can learn is that we would have never gotten to the place of success that we’re at today if we would have never took the risk and left our previous job. Life will sometimes give us opportunities that don’t look very appealing in the short term, but may be the best thing to happen to us in the long run. The key is to recognize those opportunities and be willing to make the necessary sacrifices in the short term in order to enjoy success in the long term. An example of this is when one man got recruited by a successful businessman for his startup company for a startup salary that was way below what he was making at the time. The man looked at the long-term potential of working with a successful businessman and growing. After a few years, the man’s startup company was for $5 billion and he was obviously happy with his earlier choice.

A Step Back Can Be a Leap Forward

Wednesday, May 26th, 2010

In a career, sometimes you have to go backwards in order to get ahead. Its how a lot of careers play out these days. Many careers don’t follow the typical vertical progression pattern. Rather, people often move up, down, out, back and sideways in the course of their careers. Now, corporate America isn’t as hierarchical as it was 25 years ago. A more level playing ground doesn’t allow for as many moves up. In addition, personal obligations and goals are taking more of people’s time, resulting in them being less likely to give all their attention to their careers. Too many workers are worried that moving down or off the corporate ladder will be viewed negatively, but actually, they can be healthy decisions for your career. Today, instead of there being a corporate ladder, there is more of a corporate lattice. A lateral career move can be comparatively simple to make. They key is to know the right time to take a pay cut or apply for a job that is on a lower scale. It all depends on your long-term goals. If you desire to move to a larger, higher-profile company, you may need to take a job that is a lower position than the one you have at your present company. On the other hand, if you want to move fast to a higher position with more responsibility, you may decide to move to a smaller company, which could result in a decrease in pay at first.

Select Positives from Negatives

Friday, May 21st, 2010

Stresses in our family lives, work, and social lives can get intense sometimes. They can change a generally happy person into an anxious or complacent person. Nevertheless, a positive attitude can still be in your mind, and when you realize that your mood and your outlook on life is under your control, you’ll be better equipped to take on all of life’s obstacles. Below are some simple suggestions concerning ways of turning negatives into positives, thus helping you to live more worry-free.

First, speak the positive. Even if you have to communicate a negative thought, keep it in the positive. For instance, instead of saying, ‘I can’t make it through this,’ say, ‘I need help’. Negative statements only reinforce negative emotions. Second, rethink life’s hurdles. Try to see problems as something to work through, instead of barriers that keep you from getting what you want. Your first plan might not have been successful, but there could be another option. Try to avoid ultimatums. The more pressure you put on yourself and those around you, the more stress you will feel. Ultimatums tend to make big issues out of small ones. Third, make an attempt to smile or laugh. Smiling or telling a joke is a good way to relieve stress. Fourth, don’t forget the things that you are good at. If your work is difficult, remember all the things that you are successful at such as fishing, listening to others, sketching, shooting baskets, singing, writing, etc.

Ramember to laugh at yourself, because what we often think of as a disaster is merely a learning experience and as we learn, we can often avoid another catastrophe. Furthermore, we may have the opportunity to share what we have learned with another loved one or neighbor who will be grateful that you may have helped them avoid a similar situation.

How to Turn Negatives Into Positives

Thursday, May 20th, 2010

It’s difficult to deal with being under someone who isn’t kind or appreciative of you. Below are some ways to help you deal with this kind of circumstance and be nice to yourself.

First, it’s important to know that what someone does to you they do to themselves as well. Have you ever realized that someone who is hard on you is also hard on themselves. If so, you can be the more conscious person and offer that person the compassion that they don’t offer to themselves or anyone else. It’s not an easy thing to do, but it is very much needed in such a circumstance. Think about how difficult it is for that person to be happy when they are so self-critical. For them, happiness isn’t possible and it’s truly sad. Second, find simple ways to compliment such a person and let them know what you like about them. If they solve a difficult problem, give them credit for it. If they are dressed nicely, tell them. If you see they are having a bad day, let them know you see it. You should always behave toward others how you would want them to behave toward you. Human nature tells us to do just the opposite as in, ‘you hurt me, so I’ll hurt you.’ However, that never helps anything. Sometimes mirroring the behavior you want to see, can teach the other person to do it as well. Then everybody is happy.