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Quickie Unique Healthy Snacks

Monday, March 14th, 2011

CRACKER JACK/CHEX MIX
Toss 1 package Cracker Jacks with 1 package Chex Mix and serve. Both Adults and Children will enjoy!

GRANOLA FRUIT TORTE
Pour 1 can of your favorite pie filling into an oven safe pie dish. Cover with layer of granola and bake according to pie filling directions. (May be served hot or chilled and can be served with dollops of plain or vanilla yogurt)

SUPER FRUIT SALAD
1 cup berries or grapes 1 sliced banana 1 chopped apple 1 cup plain yogurt Toss all fruit and yogurt together. Sprinkle sunflower seeds and/or chopped nuts over all and serve.

Headstart Your Kids!

Friday, August 13th, 2010

Yes! Yes! Between 3 and 6 years of age, your children are capable of absorbing knowledge like huge sponges. Although their attention span may be short, they can quickly grasp information and are eager to learn. Your job as a parent or caregiver is to provide interesting tools, like crayons, markers, and a picture dictionary, but don’t stop there! If you are observant and aware, you will know when they are ready to begin creating their own dictionary and their own stories.

You may begin by allowing them to trace the words and pictures with colored markers or crayons in their dictionary as they say the words indicated. These suggestions expose them to understanding color, shapes, and understanding words as well as reading readiness skills. Important Note: Keep teaching sessions very brief, remembering to be enthusiastic and cheerful while encouraging even if initial efforts seem more like scribbling. Expecting perfection can delay results and may cause frustration and roadblocks to learning in the future. Pictures and words that may be too difficult to trace can often be touched as you say the word.

After mastering 3 and 4 letter words like cat, dog, pig, cup, shoe, foot, sock, leg, toe, hand, heel, door; you may introduce more “body” words and pictures like finger (show them how to trace their finger, hand, foot for their own original dictionary). Later, add other body words like shoulder, chest, stomach, ankle, even a compound word like fingernail can be introduced and then familiar environmental words like refrigerator, stove, chair, table, oven, stairs, floor, wall, corner, cabinet and then trees. bushes, flowers, etc. Once they realize a word means something real that they can see, feel and say, it really doesn’t matter whether it is a one syllable or 5 syllable word………..There really is no limit to what your child will want to learn if you open the way for them to explore and create.

Parenting Children with Special Disabilities

Sunday, July 11th, 2010

Although your child may have limitations, even severe limitations, it is important to realize your child is truly unique and often has hidden skills or abilities that may be invisible at first. Your job as a parent is to observe reactions to different environments (fresh air/sunshine/buildings/elevators/in a moving vehicle), sounds (music/drums/singing/running water) children, pets, colors, and even touch and texture. At first you may not notice little if any reaction, but it is important to continue exposing the child to different environments and situations that may eventually cause some kind of response, even though it may seem insignificant. Eventually you may observe a pleasant awareness or interest, a frightened response or a soothing, comfortable relaxation which may be your first clue.
Never underestimate the Power of Prayer in order to be guided and directed by God and the Angels assigned to you and your child. God may not seem to answer your prayers, because we are often too impatient or our expectations are too defined. Yes, sometimes a miraculous healing can take place, but often God will expect you to do your part in helping your child to develop his/her full potential and you will discover clues from many unlikely sources if you remain open and receptive to His inspiration and guidance. You may even discover a hidden ability or talent within yourself that will help unlock your potential, as well.

Your Child and Homework

Thursday, June 3rd, 2010

More than likely, at some point in your child’s life they are going to need help doing their homework. However, as parents, our goal should be to help our children with their homework and not do it for them. There are ways to help, encourage, and enable your children to do their homework and develop their own problem solving skills. Below are some of the ways you can do this.

First, set the stage for them. Find a good location for them to do homework and make sure they have all the supplies they need. Also, keep track of the amount of time they spend doing their homework and give them breaks every fifteen to thirty minutes. Second, be sure to give your child lots of praise. When your child gets their work done, always reward them with a ‘great job!’ and perhaps a handful of a healthy snack mix. Third, break down assignments into small portions. This is particularly helpful if your child struggles with focusing their attention. Use a stopwatch to time your child to see how long they can focus on a task before they want to stop. Then encourage them to go a little longer the next session. This will help to develop sustained attention and will help your kids become independent learners. Don’t be afraid to break the homework session into two or three parts as well. Don’t forget to time their breaks also.

Helping Your Child with Homework

Wednesday, June 2nd, 2010

You child will sometimes have difficulty with homework and ask you for help. You don’t mind helping them, but at the same time you want them to learn to do figure things out for themselves. Below are some ways to help your child get their homework done without you having to do it for them.

First, try to make homework fun and enjoyable. Your kids will take their cues from you and learn to have a good attitude about it and enjoy it. Second, help your children develop a written homework plan that includes a schedule and goals using whatever tools they like best. They could use a computer, calendar, notebook, blackboard, sticky note, or dry-erase markers on a mirror or window. Anything will work, as long as it’s something they will enjoy and be involved in. Third, come up with a reward system that will create more enjoyment. The system should be made to fit your family and budget. One such system could use tickets that your child could earn for every step closer they get to their goal. They could then use these tickets for a movie, breakfast in bed, extra TV time, or a trip to a fun place. When you make the rewards something that is memorable instead of something that is material, it will create long-term positive attitudes toward homework. And fourth, be sure feed your child first. Your child’s brain uses energy at a very rapid pace and needs consistent fuel.

The Benefits of Pets

Tuesday, May 25th, 2010

When most of us think about stress reduction, we tend to think of yoga, meditation, and journaling. These are indeed good ways to reduce stress. However, getting a new friend can also have a lot of stress relieving benefits. While human friends give us support and understanding, we can also get other benefits from animal companions. Research has found that, unless you’re someone who can’t stand to be around animals or you can’t properly care for them, pets can give us a lot of social interaction, stress relief, and other health benefits, and often more than even humans can. Below are some of the health benefits you can expect to get from owning a pet.

First, pets can improve your mood. It’s hard to be in a bad mood when a cute puppy looks at you or when a soft cat purrs and rubs up against you. A recent study found that men with AIDS were less likely to get depressed if they owned a pet. Second, pets can control your blood pressure more effectively than drugs. ACE inhibiting drugs typically decrease blood pressure, but they aren’t as effective in controlling spikes in blood pressure that are related to stress. Third, pets encourage us to go outside and exercise more often. Dog owners can walk their dog because the dog needs it, or walk more often since they have a companion. Since exercise is a great type of stress reliever, owning a dog can be credited with improving your overall health.

Choosing the Right Pet

Monday, May 24th, 2010

Our personal lives in 2010 are different than they were in years past. In past times, most families had larger dogs such as Irish Sitters and German Shepherds and occasionally a couple of short-haired cats. The family was made up of a husband and a stay-at-home wife and two or three children. Today, however, it is a little different. We have more options for pets now and they are some pet-owner’s best friends. Below are some tips for choosing the best pet for you.

First, try not to get a pet on a whim or spur-of-the-moment. Instead, make it a well thought out choice. Buying a pet at the pet store because you thought it was cute is not the proper way to add another member of the family. Sometimes we don’t consider all our needs and our wants sometimes cross over good boundaries. Also, it could be helpful to ask a close relative what kind of pet would fit your needs. Second, take the time to learn all you can about the pet you want. Pet stores sometimes just want to make a sell and don’t give you good information about what will suit your needs. Also, when someone writes a book, they are sometimes biased toward that particular animal. If you are considering buying a dog, learn about the traits of the different breeds. Different dog breeds have various personalities. Lastly, make sure you choose a pet that matches your lifestyle.

Helping Your Child Set Goals

Tuesday, May 18th, 2010

Not only do adults need to set goals, kids do as well. Nothing gets accomplished without goals and if nothing is accomplished, there is no reason for doing anything. Kids often don’t know how to set goals for themselves, regardless if they are short-term or long-term goals. Also, the times that kids do set goals and there is no reward at the end, they may become discouraged and let go of any goals they set. This is where you can be helpful as a parent. Teaching your kids the importance of having goals and feeling the sense of achievement when a goal is reached is very important. Goals can be set that are associated with schoolwork, homework, chores, and personal achievements.

Once a goal has been set, you need to attempt to keep your child motivated to reach it. Your role in the process depends on various factors such as the age of your child, your child’s self-starting level, and how important the goal is to your child’s personal interests. If a goal is not interesting to a child, they will need your help to accomplish it. If your child places a lot of value on a goal, they may get it done without any nudging. We, as parents, play a big role in teaching our children how to set and accomplish goals in their lives. We can teach our children what goals are and why they are important.

Praise and compliments are definitely motivating tools. Occasionally some type of reward we might offer will insure success on an extremely difficult or arduous task….like shopping for a new book, CD, DVD, blouse or shirt or even a hike in a new park or a refreshing swim or hot tub after task is accomplished will add incentive. It is important, however that even if results were not always as good as you would have liked, the effort and experience are what is truly important.

How to Legally Discipline Your Child

Monday, May 17th, 2010

Although spanking children is a highly debated topic. Some believe it can be an appropriate and effective form of discipline when it is performed in the proper way. Most child psychologists do not recommend spanking as a way of discipline, but other psychologists and parents say that a loving “potch on the butt” or a quick pat on the shoulder can get their attention. and can be effective when it’s done with love, fairness, and care. Therefore, the decision to discipline a child is best left up to each child’s parents. Nonetheless, it’s extremely unfortunate that some children are abused under the excuse of spanking and every parent should be informed of the ways of preventing abuse. Below are some of the ways to effectively and legally discipline your child when a sharp “NO!” or “STOP THAT” does not get results…..The admonition that the behavior is “inappropriate” or “unacceptable” can be used effectively on an older child.

First, give your child clear boundaries. Knowing precisely what is expected of them is the key to happy and successful children that are honest and respectful to their parents, other adults, and themselves. Second, know which behaviors deserve a more severe type of discipline. Lying, cheating, stealing and blatant disobedience deserve a time-out and short lecture. Spilling things, nose-picking, arguing, bed-wetting, and even stealing are normal behaviors for a child and don’t deserve a beating. Often you have to let toddlers, children, teens, and young adults learn from their mistakes and have normal behaviors that fit their age without making their life miserable. Third, never harm your child. The goal of discipline is to establish your authority and get the child’s attention. Never slap or hit them hard enough that they will be bruised and use your open hand on the child’s clothed bottom if you need to get their attention quickly in order to avoid a danger or accident.

Never, NEVER, take out your anger or stress on a child. Take a couple of deep, slow breaths and count slowly from 1 to 10 so you can act calmly, setting a good example for appropriately dealing with a negative situation.

Voice Power

Monday, May 17th, 2010

Are you really aware that your voice may be a tool for discipline? Instead of yelling and screaming at your child, try lowering your voice when you wish to admonish. Watch your child’s reaction. You may be surprised to notice that you have instant attention.When you rant and rave in a higher pitch, your child will often tune you out as that familiar voice falls upon deaf ears.

Next time your child is defiant or beginning to show the start of a temper tantrum, simply take a deep breath, lower your voice several notes and use simple, short, concise words and phrases like “Stop that!”, “Wait!”, “Now listen”, “You need to calm down”, or “We need to talk!”.

Often, we parents are too quick to respond and then later realize that we may have been too hasty with our decision. Children quickly notice our indecision and will attempt to take advantage by pressing for a quick response to their request or demand. Your best answer? “Not now!” if they persist, “We’ll talk about this later.” Yes, it is a delay tactic which gives you a little time to explore all aspects so that you can be confident of your final decision.